Being chronically ill & in pain is exhausting, and isolating. Many of us reach out online to find groups of people who can relate. It’s nice to be among those who just know. You don’t have to explain to them what your life is like.
Most of the time, there’s lots of love and support. Everyone once in awhile, tensions run high. Everyone is hurting. Depression is common. And that mix can lead to words misinterpreted, hurt feelings and some drama. That’s not good, but usually gets resolved quickly.
But every once in awhile, you’ll get someone in one of these online groups that seems to take illness as a challenge.
- Their pain is worse
- Their medical diagnosis’ are worse
- They have more illnesses than you
- They have suffered longer
- Have more doctors
- Tried more treatments
We expect this type of behavior from those who aren’t chronically ill; but from one of our own, it’s maddening.
There just has to be that “one person”. You know the type: the one who is the overachiever, even in illness. I’m not sure if they think there’s an award for being the most sick, or what. If so, then they can have it. Perhaps they are just scared, insecure and have no real-life support and understanding.
Regardless of why they act like this, Chronic illness and chronic pain is NOT a contest. No one is keeping score. You don’t get a gold star, a trophy or a pat on the back. There is no parade.
Just STOP IT! Take your meds and a nap. Recognize that your fellow sufferers are not your opponents or enemies.
Be thankful you have found those who understand. Cherish that.Then everyone wins.
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